Misreading Signals: How to Tell He Likes You

Some people are totally oblivious to the signs they're giving. 

With the vast numbers of books, articles, & discussions about how to interpret communication from the opposite sex, it appears men and women are a species unto themselves. A species that lacks the ability to extract meaning from emotions and verbal expression. However, we are not separate species, we are all human beings with the same basic needs--with the same mechanics necessary for communication.

Some people know perfectly well what signs mean and choose to manipulate them. On the other hand some people are totally oblivious to the signs they're giving--resulting in hurt feelings, confusion, and disappointment. Either way the best thing to do is to look at a relationship as a whole.

The fact is that many people, myself included, have problems with reading signals when it comes to romance and dating. Mixed signals start with mixed intentions. If someone has it clear in their mind how they feel about you they aren't going to risk having you misinterpret the meaning of their words or actions--are they? If their intent is to start or build a relationship with you they will communicate with you in a direct clear concise manner--won't they? If they want the relationship to grow and be successful they will invest the time and effort to learn how to communicate with you in a very direct way--right? One of the nicest things about having a relationship with someone is that over time the possibility of misreading or misunderstanding signals is lowered as we get to know the other person on a more personal and intimate level.

However, in the beginning stages it is not so easy to interpret another person's signals. Especially if they oblivious to your interpretation of their signals. Even more so if they are intentionally sending out mixed messages as a form of manipulation. It's important to know how to tell when a guy likes you, especially if you are a woman, like me, who tends to misread signals! In most cases, men make it clear when they like a woman. To make dating easier it's worth understanding a few of the signs a man gives when he likes a woman and is interested in getting to know her on a more personal level through the dating process. 

1. Does he make time for you?  If he goes out of his way to make time to talk to you, see you in person, he is most likely attracted.  He may even change his plans to spend time with you or travel long distance to see you, if so he is interested in getting to know you. 
2. Has his behavior changed toward you?  If you are already friends and he is getting more emotionally drawn to you, he will develop a deeper interest in you.  Asking questions about your family, your thoughts, likes, dislikes, hopes, dreams etc etc
3. Has he introduced you to his friends or invited you to hang out with them?  A man who invites you into a personal part of his life may be interested in dating you. 
4. Watch his sensitivity toward you.  If he takes the extra step to make you happy, cheer you up, or avoids doing anything to hurt you, he is most likely interested in dating you.  He will take steps to do little things to make you feel better when you are down. 
5. A guy who wants to date you will try to entertain and impress you!  It's important to him to get and keep your attention, as well as divert your attention from other men. 

While it is important to know the signs of when a man likes you and wants to date you, it's equally important to read the signs when he doesn't.  Misreading a man's signal can lead to embarrassment, shame, and hurt feelings. If a man likes you and wants to date you he will give you extra attention and make time for you in his life.  If he is not interested, simply move on.  Remember do not ever judge your own self-worth based on if a man's impression of you.   As I tell myself, I believe I am a great catch but I am not everyone's 'cup of tea'! 

Melody "Lil Mel" McGowan
Life Coach, Author, & Professional Adviser
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