You Do Not Have to Struggle Alone

"You no longer have to carry the load alone;

You no longer have to struggle with a greater burden that you can bear;

You have a loving all knowing compassionate God who loves you--

Accept His help."  ~Melody~

Imagine walking through a crowded airport.  You're late for your flight, and the wheels just broke on your over-packed suitcase.  With no other option, you're forced to carry the luggage and slowly maneuver through the congested lobby toward the ticketing area.  You cannot move without bumping into someone. Almost immediately, someone offers to carry your bags, but your pride won't allow you to accept help. When you realize the ticket counter is two levels up, you make your way to the stairs.  You realize it would be easier to take the elevator, but you are determined to carry your bags on your own.  

As you finally make it to the top of the steps, your arms feel numb from the pressure of your bags.  Your legs  are starting to buckle from the weight.  your back is aching from supporting the heavy load.  Then, you spot a collection of unused baggage carts.  But you ignore them, hurried and self-assured that you can handle the bags yourself.  Sounds rather silly and foolish for you to continue struggling doesn't it? 

Why would you prefer to carry such a heavy burden, ignoring every opportunity to lay it down?  God has beckoned you to lay your cares, struggles, worries, and burdens at His feet.  But when you fail to come to God in prayer, you appear just as foolish as if you were staggering with your bags through the airport.

Are you trying to carry a greater burden than you can bear?  Don't ignore God's offer to help--lay your burdens down, let God carry them.  The truth is, you really can't do it yourself, and God never wanted you to try.  

"After the storm passes, open your eyes to see God's message of hope." -Melody-

Melody "Lil Mel" McGowan
Life Coach, Author, & Professional Adviser
Let Your Heart Heal Life Coaching
http://www.lilmel.com
https://www.facebook.com/AdvisorLilMel
Http://advisorlilmel.blogspot.com/

Disclaimer: Let Your Heart Heal Life Coaching is not for entertainment purposes only. I believe that using various life coaching techniques, insight, advice, and guidance during a session can help you see patterns and make better decisions in your daily life. Any information obtained during a session must be used with common sense. Let Your Heart Heal Life Coaching is not responsible for how you apply this information.

Love Yourself First

"Whatever you are doing, love yourself for doing it. 

Whatever you are feeling, love yourself for feeling it." – Thaddeus Golas

It's no secret that we tend to look for flaws within ourselves and that we're our own worst critics. We always find something that we don't like and even catch ourselves saying, "I'm not good enough, not beautiful enough, not thin enough, not smart enough." Often times we tell ourselves that if we do X, Y, and Z we will be able to love ourselves. "Over the next few months I will lose weight, become a better person, change some bad habits, and then I can start loving myself!."

Nonsense! The time to start loving yourself is NOW! The simplest way to begin loving yourself is to start by saying it! In order to surround yourself with self-love and create a bubble of love you need to learn how to say, "I love you" to yourself! You can do this silently but it is more powerful when you actually speak the words, "I love you" out loud to yourself.

Make saying, "I love you" to yourself part of your morning ritual--look into the mirror and say out loud to yourself the words, "I love you". This may sound awkward or strange in the beginning, but over time, these three powerful words will make all the difference in how you feel about yourself. Everyone needs to hear that they are loved and cherished. Stating, "I love you" to yourself is affirming that you are a child of God worthy of love.

Do it now! Start today! Do not wait to lose weight, get the new job, or to find the new relationship! Start today and do the best you can do. Look into your eyes often. Forgive yourself while looking into the mirror--express a growing sense of love you have for yourself. At least once a day say, "I love you, I really love you!"

Today's Nourishment:Today I look in the mirror and tell myself I love you. I embrace myself and allow myself to feel love and warmth. I surround myself with a bubble of love--starting with telling myself, I love you!

Melody "Lil Mel" McGowan
Life Coach, Author, & Professional Adviser
Let Your Heart Heal Life Coaching
http://www.lilmel.com
https://www.facebook.com/AdvisorLilMel
Http://advisorlilmel.blogspot.com/

Disclaimer: Let Your Heart Heal Life Coaching is not for entertainment purposes only. I believe that using various life coaching techniques, insight, advice, and guidance during a session can help you see patterns and make better decisions in your daily life. Any information obtained during a session must be used with common sense. Let Your Heart Heal Life Coaching is not responsible for how you apply this information.

Misreading Signals: How to Tell He Likes You

Some people are totally oblivious to the signs they're giving. 

With the vast numbers of books, articles, & discussions about how to interpret communication from the opposite sex, it appears men and women are a species unto themselves. A species that lacks the ability to extract meaning from emotions and verbal expression. However, we are not separate species, we are all human beings with the same basic needs--with the same mechanics necessary for communication.

Some people know perfectly well what signs mean and choose to manipulate them. On the other hand some people are totally oblivious to the signs they're giving--resulting in hurt feelings, confusion, and disappointment. Either way the best thing to do is to look at a relationship as a whole.

The fact is that many people, myself included, have problems with reading signals when it comes to romance and dating. Mixed signals start with mixed intentions. If someone has it clear in their mind how they feel about you they aren't going to risk having you misinterpret the meaning of their words or actions--are they? If their intent is to start or build a relationship with you they will communicate with you in a direct clear concise manner--won't they? If they want the relationship to grow and be successful they will invest the time and effort to learn how to communicate with you in a very direct way--right? One of the nicest things about having a relationship with someone is that over time the possibility of misreading or misunderstanding signals is lowered as we get to know the other person on a more personal and intimate level.

However, in the beginning stages it is not so easy to interpret another person's signals. Especially if they oblivious to your interpretation of their signals. Even more so if they are intentionally sending out mixed messages as a form of manipulation. It's important to know how to tell when a guy likes you, especially if you are a woman, like me, who tends to misread signals! In most cases, men make it clear when they like a woman. To make dating easier it's worth understanding a few of the signs a man gives when he likes a woman and is interested in getting to know her on a more personal level through the dating process. 

1. Does he make time for you?  If he goes out of his way to make time to talk to you, see you in person, he is most likely attracted.  He may even change his plans to spend time with you or travel long distance to see you, if so he is interested in getting to know you. 
2. Has his behavior changed toward you?  If you are already friends and he is getting more emotionally drawn to you, he will develop a deeper interest in you.  Asking questions about your family, your thoughts, likes, dislikes, hopes, dreams etc etc
3. Has he introduced you to his friends or invited you to hang out with them?  A man who invites you into a personal part of his life may be interested in dating you. 
4. Watch his sensitivity toward you.  If he takes the extra step to make you happy, cheer you up, or avoids doing anything to hurt you, he is most likely interested in dating you.  He will take steps to do little things to make you feel better when you are down. 
5. A guy who wants to date you will try to entertain and impress you!  It's important to him to get and keep your attention, as well as divert your attention from other men. 

While it is important to know the signs of when a man likes you and wants to date you, it's equally important to read the signs when he doesn't.  Misreading a man's signal can lead to embarrassment, shame, and hurt feelings. If a man likes you and wants to date you he will give you extra attention and make time for you in his life.  If he is not interested, simply move on.  Remember do not ever judge your own self-worth based on if a man's impression of you.   As I tell myself, I believe I am a great catch but I am not everyone's 'cup of tea'! 

Melody "Lil Mel" McGowan
Life Coach, Author, & Professional Adviser
Let Your Heart Heal Life Coaching
http://www.lilmel.com
https://www.facebook.com/AdvisorLilMel
Http://advisorlilmel.blogspot.com/


Disclaimer: Let Your Heart Heal Life Coaching is not for entertainment purposes only. I believe that using various life coaching techniques, insight, advice, and guidance during a session can help you see patterns and make better decisions in your daily life. Any information obtained during a session must be used with common sense. Let Your Heart Heal Life Coaching is not responsible for how you apply this information.