Knowing when and
how to mind your own business should be common sense. However, knowing how to 'mind your own business' is not
known to everyone. In order to mind your
own business you must first be able to set your ego aside and have respect for
others. Once again, not everyone does
that. So how does one learn how to mind
their own business and not poke our noses where it does not belong? Setting my
ego aside and not wanting to poke my nose where it doesn’t belong, only those interested
should read on…
As a professional
advisor and consultant, I am mindful of crossing the line between providing
guidance to my clients and when to simply mind my own business. However, I am amazed at how many of my
clients tend to stick their nose where it does not belong, is not wanted, nor
needed. Minding your own business requires
respect for others. You need to understand
that the other person is an individual with the ability to make his/her own
choices. You need to realize that you
are not always right and assuming that you are, only implies you have an over
inflated ego. Recalling an old Mac Davis
song, “Lord it’s Hard to be Humble”, which reminds me of the Mr. or Miss Know-it-Alls
of the world!
The best advice ever
given to me was, “Live and Let Live”.
Advice always sounds good from people who have, been there
and done that. Such as, parents,
teaches, or professionals who sadly we often choose to tune out. However, when someone who assumes to know it
all offers unsolicited advice, it is so irritating. Giving advice or helping when asked is a good
thing, but simply being nosy and giving ‘well meaning advice’, when not asked
is not good! So, it is important that
people understand where to draw a line when it comes to giving advice. If you
aren’t asked, keep your mouth shut; and if you are asked, leave the ego out of
it. Secondly, keep it brief and respect
the other person’s rights. Suggest only what you have done in similar situations NOT what they should do. Thirdly, if you have no personal experience to bring to the table or offer, then do not pretend or make stuff up to make yourself sound better. Finally, do not be offended or upset when they reject your advice and do the exact opposite--after all, it is their right to make their own choices.
Having said all that…
The key to knowing when and how to mind your own business is
to check your ego at the front door and respect others. When a person is humble enough to accept that
other people are entitled to have their own opinions, that person is minding
his own business. Keep in mind, just as you have the right to make your own
choices, so does others.
'God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change,
the courage to change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.' ~ Author
unknown, variation of an excerpt from "The Serenity Prayer" by
Reinhold Neibuhr